I know it’s no friendship day today, but we tend to stay friends for generations and for a lifetime.
I have heard this; marriage is the ultimate test to pass in a lifetime. And someone have an answer to pass this test, resolve it with the friendship equation.
As Sir Einstein gave the equation of relativity to solve the science, may be friendship is the relation best relatable to every problem in day to day life. As they say problem is half solved if you have someone to share it sincerely and nicely. Let that someone be a friend, to sprinkle happiness in every favorable and unfavorable moments of this life.
Some met you in the infantile nursery classroom and are still together till date. Some you met in the classroom, college this time. Some met us via a friend of a friend of a friend……. and chain reaction goes on, not radioactive but what’s app active (fatal but still crucial). Some met you via someone who was used to be a friend but now only a known person (thanks to doubting skills and stagnant emotions inside). Every new place we land, the only relation ahead of us to adopt besides just being strangers to each other for a little while is friendship.
And it goes on, one thing is for sure as long as the Earth is circling around the Sun, friendship is here to stay and it only needs one thing- honest commitment and true inclination, with a little bit of friction, no fiction. Fiction is a visible and a known lie to everybody, pre accepted and authenticated.
21st century has helped the relationships to be watchable, and at the same time has made them to go under the scan. Strangely, truth now looks as convicted and lies appears as bubbles, meant to be burst at this second or another minute. It is on the fate for how long it survives, but at some place or the other we are like bubbles, harsh but true.
Friendship has evolved as a one word description that covers vast spectrums and helps one to think beyond the limits of faith and belief.
Friends are not meant to lie but they are allowed to make some secrets only to be unwrapped at the right time and place. Imagining a life without friendship, everything will turn up soar and sweet no more. Hard to imagine but please don’t tempt yourself into this and go along with the friendship, it will make your journey easier. We dare to trust, close our eyes and walk ahead regardless of bumps and path voids.
To me this relationship has made me learn to trust again and believe in a life ahead of the unemotional trafficking of this world. We came from our homes, far from perfect and try to fit in the moulds this world has set for us, regardless of shape and size. Shapes and sizes of humanity and good thinking that reside inside everybody since the time of birth. But seldom someone waters that or shows sunlight to that. The only person suitable to fit inside those moulds, are the ones that are ready to say a yes with their yes and a no with their no. But friends make a difference here; they are the mirrors that reflect the true side.
Shifting to a hostel after living in home for the life lived so far, or to a new work place appearing hostile in the beginning but as time passes by friends appear as a family. They take care of you like a parent, holding your back like a sibling or a near cousin and most importantly friendship finds a busy use in helping the after effects of a break up which is much prevalent these days.
There is a consequence here; the app system (instant messaging services) has affected the friendship, as distance is increasing the taking for granted emotion is being used the most now. Who will initiate; either one of them can or one of them should, ‘please bent down; to save your heads from thinking too much’ and at the same time please don’t keep the score, in numbers you may win but you will lose at the end.
The new term 4 a.m. friend and this thing count, in depth of the sleep a look at the phone screen and as the name reaches the neuron; the soldier is up for the stand.
The need of the hour and the want of the heart, two extremes of single personality, friendship happens in a while. It doesn’t happen just like that. It never demands and at the same time it strengthens the inner self. Human tendency is if we are alone even simplest of things looks unachievable and blur. And at the same time having a friend around adds a life in the living.
There are countless things that one cannot even think of doing when not having a friend around. But there are also a few things that one should do having a friend around. Learn to be truthful and believe in the power of giving, have courage to face the worst and have the hope to see the best after sailing through the worst. It may be the need of the hour that we make friends or accidently run into the people we never knew before but today they know us more than we know ourselves and in the name of friendship we share with them.
A thin line divides friendship and love but a visible line divides- I will be there for you wali friendship and intention behind the curtain friendship. We tend to do something for someone having the hopes of getting something in name of appreciation and a favor some other day, and when the boomerang never comes back, instead of finding the fault in the release we curse the takers/receivers. Just for once try this, do the good and move on, somebody may has passed the boomerang to the person in need, it will be come back to you, maybe not now but for sure in near future. Expectations are indeed the erasers of good deeds.
Friends are the known strangers, circle of life starts with a dot and continues while joining the dots, singing the same song to tune the life mutually, we are the question and they are the answer, to complete the never completing life; they give us way to the less travelled road, to share the sorrows and to bless the happiness, to inspire and to defend the lies more than truths, a friend in a sister or with a brother, the friendship between me and my ex helped the present one to stay for the rest (of life), one men’s tool other men’s weapon; friendship means no season, in rain or in harsh sun, in shivering winter or in soothing springs somebody is there waiting at the same park bench or at the usual adda in the schools old building, and strangers end up becoming friends.
We are not always correct and neither our decisions, we need someone to correct us not criticize us, so friendship helps make life better.